Making a note to try this next time! Have you ever tried it?
Author Rachel Bowie explains: My husband uttered three gratifying and fight-defusing words: “I hear you.” (End of sentence.)
Here’s why: “I hear you” usually works—listening skills. Per Kate Murphy, author of You’re Not Listening: What You’re Missing and Why It Matters, to listen is to learn. This fight with my husband could have gone a totally different way: He could have leapt in straight away with his viewpoint—proof he wasn’t being fully attentive—vs. taking a moment to first acknowledge that he heard what I said.